Artificial intelligence can write emails, summarize meetings, plan vacations, and answer questions in seconds. Every day, technology becomes more capable of anticipating our needs and capturing our attention. Increasingly, many people are turning to AI-powered chatbots for relationship advice as well. It’s tempting to feel like access to information or sophisticated technologies with quick answers will somehow inevitably improve our relationships. It’s essential that we resist this temptation.
Technology can’t do, and never will be able to do, the one thing that every healthy marriage requires: It cannot give your spouse your full attention. It cannot replace the wisdom and connection of the relationship you have with your spouse, either. So, if you’re in doubt, put the phone down — and turn to your spouse. Give them your attention, curiosity, appreciation and time.
Here are four simple habits that can help couples reconnect and stay connected. One of the easiest and biggest mistakes you can make in your marriage is believing you've already figured your spouse out. But people change. The person you married years ago is not necessarily the same person sitting across the table from you today. This is how so many couples end up drifting apart.
We don't wake up one morning and decide to become disconnected. We just get distracted! Drift happens when two people who love each other slowly stop paying attention to each other. Couples often assume meaningful connection will happen naturally, but healthy marriages are built through small choices repeated consistently over time.
As author Robert Brault once observed, “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” That is especially true in marriage. So, if you don’t want to drift, stay curious.